Pardon me while I vent, but it’s about time that something is said about appropriate behavior when it comes to responding to an invitation.
Recently, I held what has become the Annual Memorial Day / Welcome to Summer / The Pool is Open BBQ, and sent out invitations via e-mail to what I affectionately call the “usual cast of characters”. It’s an occasion that I look fondly towards each year, as it means that we’re probably not going to have any more of the fluffy white stuff coming down from the skies and covering my foothills-of-the-Adirondacks backyard.
I think Evite (www.evite.com) is fabulous. I can design and send off cute E-vites (e-mail invitations) in about 20 minutes. What I don’t like is one of the RSVP (response) options they offer: Maybe. Maybe? I’m sorry, but is that “Maybe I’ll come if I don’t get a better offer?” Sure feels that way since 11 people responded Maybe and didn’t show up nor pick up the phone or send a text to indicate their final plans.
Where I come from, that’s considered rude. And bad manners. And it makes the hostess feel really unimportant.
Consider, for a moment, what that means to this hostess who still has to prepare enough food to cover the Maybes because, God forbid, they might show up and I may not have enough hot dogs. Or Jerk Chicken. Or Orzo Salad. Think about the other guests who have offered to bring hors d’oeuvres, baked beans, cole slaw or dessert and are asking for a final count. What do I tell them???
I think it’s really inconsiderate when a family of four is a ‘no show’ after responding Maybe. Or, in one case, Yes (and then not making an appearance)!
If your mother didn’t bring you up to understand the importance of RSVPing properly to an invitation, then please allow me to take this opportunity to enlighten you: Maybe, without a follow-up of Yes or No several days in advance of the event, is not an appropriate reply. It is not helpful to the hostess (or her other guests bringing food) in any way. In fact, it’s really annoying to the gal who will now be eating leftovers every day for the next week!
Do I make my point?